Have you ever had someone do something or say something that caused such negative feelings – like anger, rage, bitterness, resentment or anxiety?
For context of this article, a trigger can refer to the experience of having an emotional reaction to some type of disturbing content someone says or does.
One year ago, I registered for a local fitness bootcamp and I was so excited. After working my body to the bone, I had allowed my own self care and workouts to slip. I was running a business, homeschooling 2 kids and had a 1 year old. I needed to get my body back in shape.
And so, guess what happened? So I felt super connected to the trainer. I loved his energy.
At first, he didn’t even want to let me into his program, for fear of me stealing his program – as my own. He admitted he had had other personal trainers join his bootcamp and go work in other gyms, stealing his program, training clients HIS WAY.
First of all – let’s get this out of the way.
No one can be you. Even if someone steals your ideas, programs, content, they cannot duplicate you energy.
There are no new ideas. His way of working out and and his way of training clients – I assure you he didn’t created it.
After a few weeks of being a paying customer, he blocked me from his Facebook. I was still going to his bootcamp and I had major convictions with this. So one of my shadows is I want to be loved by everyone.
The shadow is the “dark side” of our personality because it consists chiefly of primitive, negative human emotions and impulses like rage, envy, greed, selfishness, desire, and the striving for power.
I am a Leo sun. And if you don’t know about Leo’s, Leo’s love to own the spotlight. They are very creative. They’re very entrepreneurial and they’re very generous, but they also love to get love right back. And so when I was blocked, he blocked me from his personal Facebook page, I thought – “wow, what did I do?” I’m a paying customer. And he has me blocked. So one of the things, one of the shadow parts of Leo is deep down, they want to be loved by everyone and deep, deep down they secretly don’t feel lovable at all. Alternatively, he was also a Leo and Leos have big pride, big egos and have a hard time sharing the spotlight with others.
So the reason why this trainer didn’t let me into his programs was because, previously, I was a weight loss coach. And here I was hiring a trainer. I’m trying to lose weight myself, get my body back in shape. And he had mentioned that he had allowed several other personal trainers into his program and they copied from him. They stole his program and tried to sell it on their own. And he was afraid I was going to do the same.
So here’s the thing: that wasn’t my issue. I have never done that. He had no reason to believe that I was going to do that. However, he put his past experiences with other people onto me, and that was not my issue. That was his issue to deal with. However, anything you’re dealing with, it comes up for a reason and it’s coming up to be healed. So anything that’s triggering you, like I was triggered that this person who I valued, I valued enough to pay him; blocked me from seeing any of his personal posts, because he thought I was going to steal from him.
And that hurt my ego.
So, what can you do if you’re feeling triggered and how can you heal it?
This is your shadow self showing up.
There are certain things we associate from being good parts of our personality and we celebrate it. There are other parts of our personality that we associate with being bad, shameful and don’t want others to see (sometimes we don’t even want to admit it is there).
However, you can use your shadow self for healing. If you notice your triggers by things you’re judging people on, things you feel judged from other people, anything that pulls out anger and deep, dark emotion, shame, guilt, any of these lower vibration emotions. That’s what’s triggering you, and you want to get curious on why. Why is this triggering me? And what can I learn from it?
I love to use my astrological birth chart to help me heal my triggers. So one of the things you can do, is you can look to your opposite side across the zodiac wheel.
So I am a Leo, I’m ruled by the sun. However, the opposite sign of me is Aquarius. Leo and Aquarius are polar opposites and you can look to that sign to help embody different parts of you that you want to heal. So, if I want to heal my issue with not being liked, not being loved by everyone and really feeling unlovable, I can look to Aquarius, because what does Aquarius do? They are the rebel of the zodiac and they do not care who likes them, who doesn’t like them. And they own it. They own how they’re different. They own their uniqueness and they can own it.
So wherever you are, whatever sign you have in your chart, you have a polar opposite.
But you were made perfect as you are. There are light and dark parts of every sign, every person, every characteristic.
There will always be someone that doesn’t get you. There will always be people who don’t understand you or feel triggered by your energy.
This is there triggers and they can deal with those.
Your job is to be you and learn to heal from your own triggers.
So, I think right now in this online space, we’re still waiting on the election results in the US. A lot of people are triggered right now. A lot of people aren’t happy with, you know, maybe what someone is posting, someone is sharing their opinions and their beliefs, and that can leave us triggered, but whatever you’re feeling triggered, you can learn from it.
I put together a list of the zodiac signs and their shadow traits that may show up. Grab it here.